After surgery, my son was draining a lot so the surgeon ordered dry packing. But immediately my son found that to be painful when put in and it was also uncomfortable throughout the day, so we switched to saline moistened packing like you are doing. This was much better for him so you should find it to be less painful too. After that, it was more painful when the packing was removed than when it was put in. So what you are experiencing is different than my son. Everyone is different, though!
As far as the Percocet, you might try taking it as needed and see how that goes if you would rather not take it regularly. In the beginning for my son, there were days when it just hurt a lot all the time so he took Vicodin every 4 hours (which were the instructions on the bottle). Then he started taking it before packing changes and as needed for the pain.
The Saline did help more tonight when having my packing changed. I jumped in the shower before my wife removed the last bit of the packing, it hurt a little, but not too bad. After getting out of the shower, my wife dampened the gauze with the saline. It felt better, the moistness felt better in the hole, but it still hurt alot. I think the reason for this is because when i'm laying down on my stomach you cant see the opening at all. You cant see anything until my wife stretches the skin a little, so the opening isnt that wide. And its her wedging the packing in there that hurts. So I told her tomorrow before seeing the surgeon I'm going to take 2 percocets, because I know she is doing it as gently as she can and the doctor might not be so gentle.
For people who are going through this without help, God bless you. I honestly dont know what I would do without my wife helping me with this. She has been wonderful through all of this. She tells me its her paying me back for being there for her with her back surgery. I just look at her and tell her I still owe her big and I thank her for everything she does for me everyday. And my two little girls have been wonderful through this as well. Always asking me if they can bring me anything, ask me if they are being too loud. They are just going out of there way to take care of there Daddy and it makes me really appreciate how lucky I am
Went to the doctor today. He said everything is looking great and that I wont need to see him again for 2 weeks. My wife also watched how he packed me. She thought the opening was deeper than it actually was, so she was packing me too tight, which is probably the reason why I've been experiencing the immense pain. Once I'm spread open, my wife said you could probably lay your index finger flat in the opening, but thats about all.So the depth of it is no wider than a finger which I think is good. I only need one 4 x 4 gauze for the packing and then 1 4 x4 gauze to cover the area. My wife was doing twice that much. The surgeon was a little concerned that I havent had a bowel movement since surgery though. He told me to increase the amount of stool softeners. I told him that I was just going to give myself an enema today to make sure I dont have to worry about anything. He said with all the medicine that I've been taken tearing my anus would be something I would not want to experience. I'm feeling much better today, able to move around alot more with less discomfort. I guess thats because I dont have as much stuffed in me.