I hate my life right now because of my pilonidal cyst and butt discoloration

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  1. Westell01

    Westell01 New Member

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    Hey again. I just want to rant right now so if you dont want to listen it is fine. I'm male Asian 22-23 years and finishing college in about 1 and a half months.

    A few years ago i noticed my butt cheeks turned black. It is not my whole butt though but a very good portion. I am Asian so our skin tends to be yellowish. I noticed this maybe 2 years ago? I never did anything because i hoped it would go away. I didn't want to go to a doctor because I was scared and embarrassed which i regretted so much now.

    In April of 2009 i went to a doctor who i went there mainly because i had some other problems. Then i asked the doctor to see my butt because it was dark. He immediately said it was a boil and gave me some cream for 1 week and use those gauze pads. He said if nothing worked.. which didn't I would go to a surgeon he referred me to.

    One week later i went to the surgeon and the moment he saw my butt, he was extremely upset that i did not go to see a doctor sooner. He said it was a pilonidal cyst and immediately did an office procedure which i later found it was called drainage. I had to soak my butt in the bathtub for 1 week. I had to also stick the gauze pads 2 times a day for 1 week. I recalled when i got home after the drainage, i had a lot of blood but after that day, it was less and less. When i went back to him a few days later, he looked at my butt and said it looks like it is healing well and said to NEVER SEE HIM AGAIN.:eek: I asked him what about the color of my butt and he said to not worry about it. Well the thing is my butt has turned black and purpish. Some people here think it is hyperpigmentation which most likely occurred because of the pilonidal cyst.

    I then went to a skin doctor and when he saw me in April 18 i think, he said the area is definitely inflamed and suggested me doing surgery. I told him i just had my Pilonidal cyst drained a week ago by a surgeon and he knows the surgeon as well and he said then there is nothing he can do but to wait 4 weeks to see him again. I went to him for a 2nd opinion even though he was skin doctor and not surgeon. Reason i went to him was because he's a skin doctor and i wanted to know what i can use on my butt to change the color of my butt from black back to my normal color. And when i say the skin color turned from yellow to black i am not kidding. It looks black which most likely is hyperpigmentation. It still looks flared up but the thing is my pilonidal cyst doesn't look like it has any problems. To those ppl who complain about the pain, I don't think i felt much pain really. I went to doctor b/c of the butt color change and didnt even know there was a cyst.

    Today I went to my skin doctor and woke up real early because this doctor has a lot of patients and dont have appointments. Everything is walk in so you need to be on line etc. Well when i got there today doctor wasn't there so i have to wait till Wednesday to see him. I also have to schedule an appointment to see the surgeon again because i want to talk to him about what the skin specialist says.

    The other thing that gets me upset is this is my last week of classes and next week is my final week and i have graduation soon. Then the following month i have one class left and then i am done with college. There is this really attractive girl at my school and i never got the chance to talk to her because my pilonidal cyst. I mean i look in the mirror at my butt cheeks now and it looks black and inflamed so it would definitely be embarrasing as well. I wanted to know as quick as possible what i can do like using some hydroquinone cream or whatever to change the color back to normal. Its like I want to live like there is no tomorrow but this pilonidal cyst and butt discoloration holds me back. It sucks that i am done with college soon even though this is my 5th year and i will never get a chance to see her again. I mentioned her a bunch of times b/c everytime i see her in school she always shows signs that she is interested in me but I can't do crap because of this problem. I hate life right now.

    Anyone can give me some advice on anything i have said? I will probably be done with college in early July because that is when my last class ends. Its a 5 week course from June to July. Of course i will never see that girl again. I wished i had no embarrasing problems like this. I mean if i showed any of you guys a picture of how my butt looks you would be like wow how did it get black since most of you people here who have a pilonidal cyst don't have anything happened to your skin in your butt.

    Is there any point of doing surgery since some people here said the pilonidal cyst came back? I already had it drained 1 month ago. The most important thing right now to me is it possible to change the skin color of my butt back to normal? It is black and covers a good amount of area as well.

    Sorry guys if i had to much to say but i just think life is unfair to me.
     
  2. MaVeRiCk7

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    What I suggest you do is post a pic of that area in the pics forum. I will not be able to see the pic as I am not brave enough to see my own so how can I see someone else's?

    We all are going through the same thing as you and we understand what you feel from pain to embarrassment right down to having surgery. I myself was 20 when I saw realized I had pilo and now I am 22 and soon 23 so I have been suffering nearly 3yrs from this pilo now and there is nothing you can do apart from just getting on with it.

    Hope you heal up soon mate :)
     
  3. Westell01

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    okay i posted 5 pictures up though 2 of them shows the back of my testicles but it shows my black and inflamed my butt area is. You shouldn't click the last 2 if u dont want to. They are in the pictures area.

    Can someone please tell me if this is hyperpigmentation or whatever it is? Is it skin cancer? Is it possible to change the color back to normal? Would doing surgery be able to do anything? The small line you see in my butt area is where the doctor did the drainage on me a month ago.
     
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    Can someone tell me if they can view the photos or not? I am not sure if it is restricted or what not because i created a flickr account for this since that is only way to post picture along with photobucket
     
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    I tried and it said the album was private.
     
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    I think I know what you mean by the blackish area (I have not seen the pics), as I think I have it too, like a permanent bruise and the doctor says it's permanent.

    It doesn't bother me that much to be honest, as it doesn't hurt or inhibit me living my life, but I can undestand why it would bother you.

    I'm not sure if there's anything that can be done about it, as my doctor says there isn't but there may be more options?
     
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    is it really permanent? [:^] Did the doctor told you that? So your telling me nothing like hydroquinone nor laser surgery or what not could fix it?

    I will post the pics on photobucket later tonight since you cant see the pics on flickr b/c it requires a sign in yahoo
     
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    okay i posted the pics. Louise57 is this what you have as well ? Life is horrible if i cannot change the color of it. I would want to die if it is true.
     
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    can you guys take a look at the picture forum and please give me some advice. Life is really horrible for me now since someone mentioned that this bruise or whatnot is permanent b/c their doctor told them so?
     
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    First, the pigmentation problem I observed in your pictures was not that bad. Life is only horrible if the pigmentation issue is accompanied by severe pain. So far, you really haven't done anything to resolve the problem. You had it lanced. I'd stop going to a dermatologist, they are not going to help with a pilonidal cyst. Solve the cyst problem and stop worrying about the pigmentation problem for now. I'm honestly not sure that's a bruise either and, if it is a bruise, they generally are not permanent. None of us are experts so don't believe anything we tell you. Sure, many of us have personal pilonidal stories to tell but most of us are not medical professionals. My advice is find a better doctor unless you feel confident with your current surgeon.
     
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    great post ukchuck. i totally agree with every word u said. i agree the pigmentation is not that bad at all. its only as horrible as u make it but otherwise i think its not as horrible as i was picturing.

    i agree about seeing a different doc too. sometimes u just need to move forward with your life instead of standing still from something thats out of your control. good luck.
     
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    hey the thing is my butt also keeps getting red as well. It sometimes feel like its burning if you know what i mean. When i sit long, my butt cheeks get red as well as you can see. It does a hurt as well the pigmentation a bit i guess. Right now as i type on my computer and sitting down, i do feel my butt area getting very hot

    What doctor should i see then if i should not go to a skin doctor? Try another surgeon? Is there a specific name for this kind of doctor you are talking about.

    Can other ppl here check out the pictures i posted. Also, are you sure you dont think it looks that bad? I mean i am literally [:^] now. So you guys and gals can confirm this is hyperpigmentation right?
     
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    yes, i promise i don't think its that bad at all. i have nothing to gain by telling you this. i think it looks fine. and my buttcheeks burn and turn red sometimes too, but thats mostly from the cyst.
     
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    Hyperpigmentation can be treated. There are quite a few medications available to lighten the area.

    What you need to do is to find a dermatologist who is familiar with this condition and can prescribe you a medication to alleviate this problem. If I were you, I'd call around and ask if the doc is familiar with hyperpigmentation.

    Good luck. Don't despair. There are medications that can help you with this problem, but first you have to find a dermatologist who knows what he's doin.
     
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    jaredsmom did you see the pictures? What do you think about it? Do you also see how i have pimples on my butt as well? Also its pretty red on my buttcheeks like where i sit.
     
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    A link to the cleft lift doctor's recommended on this site. If you choose open excision you have many more doctor options. Link 2 explains the surgical options. I used the list on this site to select my cleft lift doctor. Good luck and don't despair. This community is great.

    http://www.pilonidal.org/surgeons.htm

    http://www.pilonidal.org/treatments/pilonidal_excision.htm

    Since you have pain associated with the pigmentation problems (even after the lancing) I would research the surgical options. Get that cyst knocked out then you can worry about the hyperpigmentation. Jaredsmom is right, lots of ways to treat it after your cyst is removed.
     
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    That's what my doctor told me but my discoloration doesn't bother me enough to pursue a second opinion, to be honest it was/is the least of my worries.

    I cannot see the pics they have violated terms of use.

    Honestly, it might not be as bad as you think.

    I agree with this post 100% I feel awful now that someone is saying they want to die because of what I said.
     
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    okay i finally figured how to change the photos from private to public on flickr. Can the people who couldn't see the pictures check it out now to give me their opinions? Click on the flickr ones and not the photobucket ones.


    I am going to my skin doctor again tomorrow and my surgeon on thursday. I am thinking about goign back to my regular doctor thursday afterwards to get a referrer to see another surgeon. I am so confused right now.
     
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    I looked at your pics the other day and honestly the discoloration really isn't that bad. Obviously it is very noticeable to you as it's your body but to an outsider it's really not that noticeable. If I were you I would be focusing the cyst and getting that taken care of and not worrying too much about the discoloration. You skin doctor should be able to tell you what your options are for the discoloration long term but in the short term I would be focusing on the cyst. I don't think the 2 are related, it's most likely just a coincidence that they occured around the same time. Good luck!
     
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    okay i just made all the photos made public. Now you can see all 5 photos on flickr.

    Ty kasey. Can other members here please chime in?
     

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