It is to my understanding that surgery is not always necessary but if that is to become required it seems as if the cleft lift is by far the best way to go. But if the flaring goes down and it remains not infected for a long period of time then it may not be necessary. Not 100% sure about home remedies. There also may be alternatives to surgery such as potentially laser removal which is something else I have been hearing about. Best of luck and sorry that ended up happening!